Brain Fog, Lost in The Bermuda Triangle

My brain is like the Bermuda Triangle, information goes in and then it’s never found again.

My brain has too many tabs open

Ya’ll gonna make me lose my mind….up in here, up in here

Some days it’s like groundhog day for me. Information goes into the Bermuda Triangle and does not come out. Let me tell ya, it’s freaky scary!!! If you have experienced it, you know where I am coming from. You walk in a room and cannot remember why you even walked in there.  So you have to go back to where you were and retrace your steps and hope to remember. Or you are on your cell phone and tell the other person on the other end, “I need to go I can’t find my phone”.  Duh 🤷 I had it to my ear the entire time.  Eyeglasses are the death of me.  They keep disappearing and showing up on top of my head. They are like those creepy little elves that made shoes at night, they just show up.


Earlier this week I had put in a tortilla wrap to warm up in the toaster oven and I forgot all about it until my son asked me, “Mom, what is burning”?  You see less than two minutes earlier I had put that tortilla in the toaster oven and went on with my conversation with Tom. I am so Thankful he decided to stop by with my granddaughter Paisley, on his day off, for coffee.  There were flames shooting out and hitting the cabinets above the toaster. I freaked out and was jumping up and down telling my son to put it out. Meanwhile, he was yelling at me for the fire extinguisher.  I Thank God that he was here or my house would not be standing today.

 Ma’am, would you like your tortilla well done?


There were flames shooting out of the toaster oven and hitting the cabinets above.

What is Brain Fog?

Brain fog is a frustrating symptom

  • A general sense of cognitive fuzziness
  • Difficulty concentrating and remembering
  • The inability to find the right word
  • The incapacity to absorb information
  • The inability to multitask
  • A decline in mental sharpness and performance
  • A general feeling of mental exhaustion
  • The inability to think clearly or focus


My train of thought derailed.  There were no survivors. 😜

So some days are better than others.  There are days my husband has to repeat himself and if I don’t hear what he is actually telling me the second time, I pretend I did. Then he says to me that we have already discussed this and I tell him, “nope no we haven’t” when in reality, it was most likely that time when I just yes’d him.

I find myself repeating myself, telling the same stories over and over.  Do you remember visiting grandma and she told you the same story and you sat there smiling because you did not want to be rude and hurt her feeling by telling her she already told that one?  That is me, I have become my mom and my grandma, the same storyteller.

Is there a vitamin I can take?  Vitamins that fight Brain Fog. A deficiency of folate, vitamin B-6, thiamine or niacin can cause confusion or memory problems, so you need all four in your diet to avoid brain fog. Chronic inflammation is linked to brain fog, and diet significantly influences the level of inflammation, reports Eliaz. Jun 30, 2015

Vitamins for Brain Fog | LIVESTRONG.COM

OR should I be doing daily crosswords? Or Sudoku?

10 Best Brainpower Booster Foods

      1. Red Wine – Of course I choose this one on the list first.  Drinking red wine moderately later in life correlated to increased episodic memory compared to those who do not drink wine. Cream Ridge Winery, I’m coming back to load up on some of my favorites.
      2. Beets – One of my most favorite vegetables.  I love beets, whether steamed or raw in a cold pressed juice.  In a study, researchers saw that beets improved blood flow to the brain. Nitrates are found in beets and converted into nitrite in the body. Nitrite, by the way, is the stuff that makes Viagra get its groove on. Bow chica bow wow.
      3. Cherry Tomatoes – Another one of my favorites. Tomatoes have carotenoids, lycopene and beta-carotene are powerful antioxidants.
      4. Broccoli – LOL, these 1st four are all some of my favorite foods and drink 😉 Broccoli is jammed packed with vitamin K,  which improves verbal episodic memory, the ability to absorb and remember verbal instructions.
      5. Black Beans – Beans Beans the more you eat the more…as the old rhyme says, beans are also good for your heart; a healthier blood flow means a healthier brain.
      6. Green Tea – Green tea contains strong antioxidants called polyphenols, which can improve alertness and slow your brain’s aging process.
      7. Salmon – Salmon is packed with Omega 3 fatty acid, it can improve memory and the time it takes to recall a memory.
      8. Blueberries– Blueberries antioxidants help lessen inflammation, which can cause longer-term problems for the brain and its memory function.
      9. Spinach Salad with Cheese – three-level punch of vitamin E, vitamin K, and folate in spinach will help boost memory function. Folate has the most punch,  vitamin B12 to help improve cognitive function in older adults without dementia. Since spinach doesn’t contain vitamin B12, add some cheese or eggs to a spinach salad.
      10. Almond Butter – Almond Butter contains high concentrations of vitamin E which helps reduce the risk of cognitive impairment. Some studies indicate it can slow the decline caused by Alzheimer’s disease.

I have attached the Amazon link to one of my favorite Almond Butters, Justin’s and a wonderful green tea as well.

Harney & Sons Green Tea, Citron, 20 Sachets


Brain fog from hormonal changes may feel similar to ADHD symptoms. Memory problems reach their peak in the year after your last menstrual period. Women fear dementia after menopause, or that symptoms you’ve noticed could be due to undiagnosed ADHD. The good news is that in most cases, it’s not early-stage dementia. Everyday Health May 18, 2015

Is Your Brain Fog Menopause, Dementia, or ADHD? | Everyday Health

I chose not to do HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) because of the potential increased risk of blood clots, stroke, heart attack, and breast cancer, my mom passed away from breast cancer so this is a very tricky area for me. My doctor asked me to please consider HRT, maybe I could do it for a short time and see how I felt. I told him that it was not a choice I wanted.  I promised him I would try my best to work through it with diet and exercise.

Do you know how scary it is for someone in their early 50’s to feel like they are literally losing their mind?  You feel like you are going crazy.  I have to put all appointments and activities in my planner and also on the blackboard in the kitchen.  LOL, I tell my family and friends if you ask me to do something and I don’t show up, it is most likely because I forgot to write it down, POOF and it’s gone!!  Many women feel like they have the onset of Alzheimer’s Disease or Dementia.  But studies do show that after menopause your memory bounces back.  I am six years into my menopausal years and my hope is that the end of this torture is coming closer.

If we as women are aware of what is really happening to our bodies and our minds as we grow into our mature age we won’t feel so alone.  We won’t feel like we are the only ones going through these scary stages in our life.  This and many other menopausal symptoms were not subjects my mother or grandmother ever spoke of. Like I have said in previous Blogs, they went through The Changes, but my mom NEVER told me what The Changes were all about. So I will try to cover it all so you are better aware of what is happening.  I had no one I could talk to.  So leave me your questions or your comments and I will cover some of them on Facebook Live segment real soon.

Thank you again for being a loyal reader. Eat your veggies, exercise and always check your head for your glasses 😉

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Meditation and Centering Your Day

Meditation is not a way of making the mind quiet. It is a way of entering into the quiet that is already there – buried under the 50,000 thoughts the average person thinks everyday. ~ Deepak Chopra

The Goal of Meditation is Not to get rid of thoughts or emotions. The Goal is to become more AWARE of your thoughts and emotions and Learn how to Move through them without getting Stuck. ~ Dr. P. Goldin

Start Each Day With A Grateful Heart

I start each morning like most of you all do, you Thank God (or Your Higher Power) for another beautiful morning, you are Blessed to open your eyes and put your two feet on the floor.  For some like myself going through Menopause and having chronic pain from Fibromyalgia, putting those two feet on the floor is very painful, so we take it slow and steady.  I stretch before getting out of bed and hope for the best when I plant those feet on the ground.


One of my daily routines is making sure that I meditate for 30 minutes a day.  I know some days that is not possible, so I will take a few minutes to just say a quick prayer.  I am very spiritual and open, so as an Empath, I will say a protection prayer. If I am going to be around a lot of people or a day that I am with a negative person or negative persons, all that negativity that they spew out weighs heavy on me, so I need to protect myself with my protection prayer.

This beautiful Resting Buddha sits on my front porch all year round.

Below is an Amazon link for a Resting Buddha.  It is not the one I have above, the one above I bought at a little shop in New Hope, PA.  The owner has since closed her doors and has moved on.

BLUE RIBBON PET PRODUCTS EE-488 Exotic Environments Resting Buddha Statue

I like to meditate at 3pm, everyone meditates at different times, when they find they have a few minutes or at their own specific set time.  3pm is my time to center myself, be Thankful and quiet my mind and everything around me.

Prayer is when you talk to God. Meditation is when God talks to you.

I go into my bedroom, I have a Prayer/Meditating area.  I have an old chair that my grandma, Mama Cede (my namesake) gave me before she passed away. I make sure the room is as dark as I can make it.  I pull my room darkening shades, I light an incense and sit comfortably in my chair.

So find a quiet place away from noise and distractions. Close the door, turn off your cell. Sit comfortably with your feet on the floor.  Take in 3 deep breaths, in through your nose filling your lungs deep into your abdomen, out through your mouth.  Clear your mind of any chatter and daily distractions.  Concentrate on your breath, in and out.  Feel the air filling your lungs and deep into your abdomen.  If any chatter comes into your head, acknowledge it, clear it away and go back to concentrating on your breathing.  Just sit there in the silence for at least 15 minutes.  Use this time to center yourself, no distractions.  No laundry, no cooking, no kids.  Just you alone as one.

Stress is a known trigger for symptoms of Menopause like hot flashes and insomnia. Using Meditation as a way to relieve some of the daily stresses. Meditation will help the body deal with reducing the anxiety we feel.

You can use the guided relaxation meditation that is below.  This meditation is great for releasing your worries and anxiety of your everyday stresses.  If you do this one at night, you do not want to light an incense while you are meditating and laying in bed.  You WILL fall asleep.  If I meditate at bedtime, I put on a pair of earbuds and lead my body into calming relaxation.

Women of Wisdom ~ Menopause ~ Guided Relaxation Meditation

By calming my body and heart into relaxation, I lay with a pillow under my knees.  My legs bent and my feet flat on the mattress.  I have my earbuds in place and my eyemask on to make sure as much darkness and distractions are eliminated.  As much as I have hot flashes, I have my blanket over me as a barrier of protection.

If you would like more information on meditation or what I mean about protection, please send me an email or a message through my facebook instant messaging.

In a 2006 WebMD Study: Easing stress through meditation may help turn down the heat of hot flashes caused by menopause.

A small new study shows that menopausal women who participated in a stress reduction program that included meditation experienced significant relief from hot flashes and improved their quality of life.

I am positive that if you take a few minutes every day, you will see how relaxed you will begin to feel.  Meditate, write in a journal, read, listen to music and just be in the moment…create your sanctuary place for you to go to.

Here are a few different places where you can meditate:

  • In a Park
  • On the Beach
  • Taking a long walk
  • While taking a warm bath
  • During your lunch break at work
  • and while waiting for your doctor’s appt (we all get stressed out)

Thank you again for being a loyal reader. Remember to Breathe and take time for yourself.  Be well and I will see you next week!!!

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Clean Eating for a Healthier You

The devil whispered in my ear, “You’re not strong enough to withstand the storm”. Today I whispered in the devil’s ear, “I am the storm” ~ Unknown

Clean Eating For a Healthier You.  No one told me that eating clean was NOT about me devouring a whole chocolate cake while doing the dishes.


When I was in my twenties I was told that as we get older it is harder to lose all our unwanted weight.  I will agree that it is harder to get rid of that muffin top, the love handles, the dun lap in our older adult years.  But sitting on the couch eating chips with onion dip and sipping on a fountain soda while watching Biggest Loser will not help your current weight situation.  That right there was my favorite thing to do while watching Biggest Loser. I know that sounds sadistic but I couldn’t help it.  The Biggest Loser would come on TV and I was at the pantry looking for a snack.  Why did watching Biggest Loser trigger me to eat junk food?  I would gain weight while the competitors would lose a person (150 pounds is a person).

Fast forward three months I had to go see my doctor, Dr. W.  I wasn’t feeling well, I had strained my neck after hitting a pothole with my cute little red sports car.  I couldn’t take the pain any longer and walked into Dr. W’s office, crying in pain, tears running down my cheeks begging to be seen. The nurse walked me into a room. The room was sterile looking with a scale against the wall, she had me step onto it.  The damn thing must hate me, the liar, the nurse kept moving that dial up and up, What The What?

Crap! I ask her if she could tell Doc not to harp on the weight gain. Nope, he walks in, sits, and looks at my chart.  That is when he sees my weight gain and asks, “what happened?” I told Dr. W the Biggest Loser was on TV and I like to snack while watching the show. He shakes his head with a smile and says, “ok what are you going to do about the weight gain?” Gosh, I hate that question!!


He tells me, “you need to lose some of that unnecessary weight. Let’s start with ten pounds, is that fair?”  TEN POUNDS? Can I? How? How am I supposed to do that? How can I lose that extra weight? How? How? How? I can gain ten pounds without a problem, but please don’t ask me to lose ten pounds!!! At this point I was almost 50, I was already in Menopause and losing weight at this age was harder then I ever thought it would be.

“Doc, please tell me, does this mean no more hot fudge sundaes from my favorite ice cream shoppe, Sundaes? How about vanilla cream donuts from Dunkin Donuts?  Does that mean no more drinking Dr. Pepper with a juicy cheeseburger and french fries from Five Guys?”  “Yes, that is what that means, no more junk food!!!” None of those things were good for me I know, but damn are they good.  And that was the beginning of my torture.  Torture you ask?  Yes, there were years that I could eat anything put in front of me. I could eat without gaining any weight.  Now I was told to LOSE MY FIRST TEN POUNDS!!!! TEN and that was just to start.  He was trying to trick me 🙂 He figured if he said only ten pounds I would be okay with it.  Boy was he wrong, lol.

I do have to say thank you to my friend Lori. Lori got me off the couch while I was suffering from depression.  She would call me and say put your running shoes on I am coming to get you.  I told her over and over again, “Lori I am not running anywhere unless there is a clown chasing me with a knife”.  Finally, after weeks of her constant phone calls and texts, I got off the couch and put on a pair of Nikes. I think she was trying to kill me the first time out though, she made me run something like 4 bloody miles. Every time I thought we were turning to go home, she would run the opposite way. We live in a small town that is only 2.8 square miles. Only 2.8 but yet she managed to take me on a 4 mile run. That was the start of my daily runs with Lori and Jen.  If it wasn’t for Lori being persistent I never would have added jogging/running into my daily routine. I learned to love running, Lori took me to buy a good pair of running shoes.  I was hooked!! I even did my first 5k with Lori and Jen, right here in Beachwood.

Not long after Dr. W asked me, no wait…told me to lose the weight, I knew that meant I needed to change my eating habits. The decision to start eating clean took a lot of self-talk.  Not only is it changing your foods, it means meal prep.  I invested in a Ninja blender and started to make my own smoothies with fresh vegetables and fruit.

Below is one of my favorite smoothies. Detoxifier helps to kick start your weight loss and strengthen your Immunity.

Beet It!

1 Organic Beet with leaves
4 Organic Celery Stalks
1 Organic Lemon (If it is not organic make sure you peel it before cutting up)
4 oz of  Coconut Water

First wash all the veggies thoroughly. Peel the beets and cut them into quarters. Clean the leaves as well and strip them from the stalk. Cut the celery and the lemon in half, make sure to remove the seeds from the lemons.  Put all the raw ingredients into the Ninja blender. Pour coconut water over the beets, leaves, celery, lemon, mix until well blended. This smoothie will have pulp, it is a smoothie, not a cold press juice. LOL, make sure you check your teeth 😉

Beet It!


Changing the way I eat started off slow, eating breakfast, that was a toughie.  I do not like eating first thing in the morning.  I found a recipe that I changed up for me, it was egg white muffins.  You can make 12 at a time, put them in little snack bags to grab and go in the morning.  I will share that recipe in my upcoming eBook.

This is my daily routine.  I wake up 🙂 when I feel I like it now that I am no longer tied to a time clock.  I drink a warm (not hot) 8oz glass of water with lemon.  I have my coffee, black no sugar no cream or milk and have my breakfast. About 2 hours after breakfast I will have a snack.  It could be a banana or a yogurt with my homemade granola, 2 of my favorite snacks. I will have lunch around noon time and 2 hours after that I will have another snack.  Before dinner, I will make an ACV cocktail with grapefruit juice, it is an acquired taste. I then have dinner by 6pm and another snack around 8:30 pm.  I will also go through this schedule in my eBook.

Below is a picture of the items that I have changed in my pantry. I’ve included a link to purchase a few of my favorites from Amazon.

Organic & Non GMO Extra Virgin Coconut Oil, 15 fl oz.

Smart Balance Omega Natural Peanut Butter, Creamy, 16 oz

Liquid Aminos 16 oz. 16 Ounces 

Read above about the benefits of Himalayan Salt vs Table Salt

To update you on Dr. W, I went back to see him about 6 months later because I had some type of virus.  He made me laugh and feel good about myself.  He looked at the chart and was so impressed at the loss of weight. Yes, I was paraded into that dreaded sterile room, again and made to step on the scale. He asked me what I did differently.  I told him that I had started running and eating clean.  I had lost more than the 10 pounds he wanted me to initially lose. I was no longer interested in the number but in the inches that I had lost.  He wanted details on what I had done to get to the point I was at. I told him I was eating clean and running, exercising.  This is not easy as we get older and hit our menopausal years. But everyone can change one thing to help you with weight gain really caused during Menopause. I do feel so much better when I eat clean and not processed foods.  Make healthy choices when you go out to eat as well and do not make excuses.

If you have fibromyalgia or any other chronic illness, think about changing what you eat.  Eat fresh vegetables and fruits, cut out the processed foods and the sodium intake (change your table salt to Himalayan Salt, read Dr. Axe above).

I will be sharing my Clean Eating Grocery List with you if you have subscribed to my email list. I am also releasing an eBook with Breakfast, Lunch, Snacks, Dinners, and Cold Press Juice recipes before the end of the year. 21 Days of Clean Eating for a Healthier You.  I will make sure that I send Dr. W a copy of this eBook 😉

Thank you again for being a loyal reader.  Please leave me a comment or a question.  Have a wonderful week and put down that cake 😉

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Each day feels like a “dud” when you are tired. Luckily we have chocolate to get you through. ~ Milk Duds

Sleeplessness Insomnia (Painsomnia) is like a chit chat with yourself at bedtime. While the whole time you are counting how many minutes you have to fall asleep before the alarm goes off!!!!

1 sheep, 2 sheep, 3 sheep, sliiiiddddeee to the left, cha cha now y’all, heyyyyy Macarena. This is what happens to me on most nights, I have a chit-chat with myself and then I try to force myself to sleep. I start counting sheep, then I have a dance party, Mercedes party of one. Some nights I lay there listening to my husband breathing in and out….shoot, did he just stop breathing? A little nudge, I cover my eyes with my sleep mask really quick so he doesn’t see that I did it on purpose.  Nope, he’s alive.  Phew, that was scary.

Those nights when I really can’t sleep, the weirdest thoughts go through my head.  So, you can imagine what bedtime is like for me. I toss and turn so many times, I don’t need to go to the gym.


We have all experienced it, we go to bed wide awake, our alarm goes off, and we wake up tired, dragging ourselves out of bed…time to make the donuts (do you remember this commercial?).  We drink our cup of coffee or the whole pot just so we can find some energy.  Out the door to start our day, work, gym or run errands.

I go through my day tired, I can’t wait for bedtime, to go to bed by 10pm and sleep until 8am.  Nope, 9 pm comes around and so does the second wind.  So I am wide awake, up playing games, chatting and commenting on Facebook, catching up on everyone’s day and watching nonsense TV until 11, then the NEWS comes on….don’t ever watch the news before going to bed, it’s like watching a horror movie leaving you to turn off all the lights and head up the stairs alone.  Running like you’re being chased by the little boy that my granddaughter sees lurking in my house.  That is a whole other BLOG post, I will leave that one alone for now. Laughing out Loud 🙂

So, who else walks security around their house at 3am? I do, doesn’t everyone? Checking doors, is the stove off, is the alarm system on away and making sure the lights are all out.  Oh, the best, I get out of bed, I go downstairs where the little boy is hiding…lol, hit quick exit on the alarm pad and open the door to make sure the garage door is shut.  OF COURSE IT IS!!!! When I go back to bed, I check the live motion that shows the front of my house on an app I have on my cell, who does that?  Menopause has left me with little sleep and the hours that I do get are disturbed by night sweats and ripping off the blankets AND being paranoid.

Dear 3am, we have to stop meeting like this.  I would much rather sleep with you.

I have recently started taking a supplement, Rest EZ by Melaleuca, at night with melatonin as one of the active ingredients.  Between the supplement, the humming of the fan for the white noise (let’s not forget the night sweats) and the oil diffuser I have on the side of my bed, all of these combined are supposed to help relax me, haha that is a funny word, RELAX.  The sweet smell of oranges coming from the diffuser does somehow calm me. In the diffuser, I make a mixture of the orange, lavender, and eucalyptus oils, 5 drops of each in the water for a sleepy time concoction. And my #1, I cannot sleep without, is my eye mask.

Look for my online shop coming soon (hoping by Christmas) where you will be able to get your own signature Menopauso Sleep Mask and some of my other favorites things. Haha just like Oprah, except there is no car 😉 .

I have attached the Amazon link to go ahead and order one of my favorite diffusers and some essential oils as well.  Buying the diffuser and the oils together will save you money because you won’t have to buy them individually.

We have all heard of ACV, Apple Cider Vinegar.  I recently read that adding ACV to your nightly routine will help with insomnia.  ACV is what they call a “natural go to remedy”, Mother Nature’s Perfect Miracle Food.  Not any ACV, it has to have “The Mother”, you know the one with that cloudy look to it and the brown sediment at the bottom of the bottle.  So, before bed make yourself a cocktail of 1 tablespoon of ACV and 8 oz of warm water.  If the taste makes you gag a little bit, add a teaspoon of raw honey to the mixture.  Drink this right before bed, if you wake up again and can’t fall asleep, try drinking another glass to help relax you back to sleep.

So, I am going to give it a try, not only could it help, it won’t hurt.  Just to name a few of the properties that ACV with The Mother has:

Apple Cider Vinegar with The Mother

PotassiumPotassium helps with relief from anxiety and stress. It also helps to enhance water balance, electrolytic functions, and the nervous system.

IronIron is very important for your blood health. It produces hemoglobin which carries oxygen from your lungs throughout your body.

Magnesium Magnesium helps treats Insomnia and helps you fall asleep faster.

CalciumYour body needs calcium to build and maintain strong bones. Your heart, muscles, and nerves also need it to function properly.

PectinPectin is a rich fiber that’s water-soluble and helps lower cholesterol and increases digestive health.                                                          

Attached below is the Amazon link to go ahead and order the Apple Cider Vinegar. I like Braggs, I have tried others but I always go back to buying the Braggs.



Have you heard the word Painsomnia?  No? Neither have I.  I was doing some research because come one now, you know I did not come up with all that info on ACV on my own.  And I came across the word Painsomnia.

The definition of Painsomnia is:


noun – uncountable

  • inability to sleep due to pain. From “pain” + “insomnia”.

Yes, it is a made-up word combined from pain and insomnia.  I have Fibromyalgia, this also attributes to the sleepless nights.  The nights that I have a lot of pain or flare ups as we call it, it’s even worse for me to fall asleep and makes waking up and getting out of bed 10x harder. It may take me a good 10 to 15 minutes to be able to get out of bed, the bottom of my feet hurt so much those mornings. Those flare up nights I have a pillow under my head, one under my knees and one along my side.  AND my iComfort mattress is only about two years old, so it is not the discomfort of a 15 year old mattress.  Pain and insomnia equal a rough next day for me.


Himalayan Salt Lamps

Can we just talk about these for a minute?  I love my Himalayan salt lamp and no one can change my mind. But apparently, there are no salt mines in the Himalayas. Pink rock salt is usually mined from Pakistan or Poland. “Himalayan” is a nicer name for them because a “Punjabi Foothills salt lamp”  isn’t as easy to pronounce as a “Himalayan salt lamp” is.

Mine is in our bedroom and stays on 24/7 unless we go away then I unplug it with every other electronic in my house, lol.  Himalayan Salt Lamps we are told purify your space, the air around you which helps with your breathing.  It increases your energy level and helps you sleep better, well I better move mine closer to my bed because that is not working in my bedroom. It helps reduce stress, improve your mood and your performance level.

I am not sure what performance level they are talking about but that isn’t working the way it used to either ;).  He is fine, it’s just menopausal me. What a Saint I am married to, if I was him I would have packed my truck and ran for the hills. Why didn’t my mom tell me things would change, ohhh is that why they call it The Changes? Everything changes.  I promise not to get graphic, but this is a topic I will cover in a future Blog.  I think it is important for us to cover this because with Menopause came life changing moments.  And THIS was one of them, yes by THIS I mean SEX….dumdumdum. I hope my sons are not reading this, lol.

Below is the Amazon link to go ahead and order a Himalayan Salt Lamp. Like I said I love mine and it stays on all day and night.


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Clean Eating for a healthier you!! I’ll share some yummy recipes and tell you how I decided to change my diet.


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Hot Flashes, or is it Hot Flushes????

Night Sweats are just Hot Flashes while we sleep. Because feeling like our body is inferno during the day just isn’t enough!!

It’s getting hot in here, so take off all your clothes I’m getting so hot, I wanna take my clothes off…let me stop right there, lol you get what I am saying.

Hot Flashes, or is it Hot Flushes????  Either way, hot damn it’s like our body is an inferno.  Do you remember the first time? The first time you felt that heat from the inside out? You start taking clothes off and your husband/partner is looking at you like, Woman are you insane put that shirt back on. That was me, Good Friday 2011, sitting in my aunt’s kitchen in Hoboken, NJ.  Everyone is talking, loud mind you, they are eating, laughing and I am sitting there thinking, what is happening? Why does she have the heat on? It’s a beautiful spring evening with a nice breeze, why is sweat pouring off me? Why isn’t anyone else complaining that it is hot?  Hello, is anyone else sweating like a 400-pound hairy man? No? Just me? Is this what Hot Flashes feel like? “The Changes”, like my mom used to call it.  You see, I seem to be the only woman in my ENTIRE family that gets Hot Flashes…Night Sweats!!  No one, not one has gone through this during Menopause????  Really? Just me???  Well, aren’t I the lucky one. 🙁

The Dictionary lists Menopause as:



noun: menopause; plural noun: menopauses
the ceasing of menstruation.
the period in a woman’s life (typically between 45 and 50 years of age) when this occurs.
Menopause is the end of a woman’s menstrual cycle and fertility. It happens when the ovaries no longer make estrogen and progesterone, two hormones needed for a woman’s fertility, and periods have stopped for 1 year.
Or like me and many other women, being spun into menopause after having a hysterectomy. I thought, yeah!!!!  No more menstrual cycle every month, no more painful cramps, no more PMS. But I was not prepared for how this was about to change my life, the hot flashes/night sweats, insomnia, the brain fog, the weight gain and the uncomfortable painful sex…..I was not ready for any of it. But yet, here it was. All of it, not gradually I may add, but the big M saying, hey…here I am like it or not! This was the beginning of the Vortex.

 Hot flash just walking to the car.

Bedtime, that was fun the first night of night sweats.  I am all comfy in my favorite flannel pj’s, under the warmth of my blankets and bedspread.  You see I always wore warm pajamas and socks….because I was always cold at night. My husband of 25 years is snoring next to me and WHAM it started from my toes and up to my chest…the boiling inferno.  Off with the covers, not gently I may add.  My hubby woke up out of a sound sleep like the smoke detectors were going off.  “What, what is the matter?  Why did you have to rip the covers off like that?”  I respond with a shriek, “it’s horrible, open the windows, put on the fan….where is the box fan?”  I start taking my flannels off and now I am standing there with only my panties on. Not very attractive when you are covered in sweat like you just ran from a creepy clown with a knife.  And that was the beginning of freezing this poor man every evening.  Windows open, ceiling fan full speed and a box fan aimed at my face. In the summer, I keep the room as cold as I can with out my husband having icicles forming from his beard.



So no more flannels and socks, now its moisture wick material PJs.  My favorite PJs is a shorts set called Ekouaer in the color blue, that my husband bought me for Christmas 2016. The Amazon link to where you can buy them is below.  I need more in all the colors they come in. Once you find those perfect PJs all your nighties get put away because you have found your favorites.

Ekouaer Women’s Sleepwear Short Sleeve Pajama Set with Pj Shorts

That was the beginning of what now has been 6 years of daily HOT FLASH torture.  So you are not alone, we are one in the sisterhood of Menopauso 😉

Top 5 Natural Remedies for REDUCING Hot Flashes/Night Sweats


    1. If you smoke, STOP!!!  Besides what we know and hear happens to a smoker’s body, it can also trigger and intensify the onset of Hot Flashes.
    2. Soy– My GYN, Dr. Joe, told me to eat Soy. Soy is high in isoflavones, which are known to bind estrogen receptors in the body. This can help reduce hot flashes. So incorporate some Soy Milk, Tofu or Soy Beans into your diet. If drinking soy milk doesn’t sound pleasing, make a shake blending the milk with your favorite fruits. Steam the soy beans and add them to a salad.  Google some great recipes for the Tofu, there are some great recipes I will share in a later Blog.
    3. Diet – I am a coffeeholic, but have since cut down on the caffeine intake since it is one of the triggers of increasing the severity of Hot Flashes. If you like your foods spicy, try reducing the heat of the spice.  I stay away from processed foods and try to eat clean every day.  Also, I have learned that my Friday night get together’s with my husband and friends at the local pub had to be less often.  Alcohol is also a contributor to the hot flashes and increasing the night sweats.
    4. Black Cohosh – I am sure someone somewhere along the road has referred Black Cohosh for your hot flashes.  This is one of the most popular herbs for treating hot flashes.  It may not send them away for ever, but it may cut down a number of times you have those “short private vacations in the Caribbean like conditions”.  Black Cohosh is often used to control the symptoms of Menopause, like these below:                 
      • Hot Flashes
      • Night Sweats
      • Mood changes
      • Sleep problems
      • Heart Palpitations
      • Headaches
      • Vaginal Dryness                                                                                                                                                                                                        The Amazon link to the Black Cohosh is below, if you have Prime you’ll have them in a few of days.

5. Alone Time – Reduce your stress. Go for a walk or a bike ride, do some yoga, read a book, write in a journal or just sit alone and breathe, take 15 minutes and meditate.  I live in New Jersey at the Jersey Shore near the water, so when I need some alone time, I take a drive to the beach and sit listening to the water crashing against the surf.  It is so peaceful to just to sit there with my eyes closed alone with my thoughts.

Symptoms of Hot Flashes:

When a hot flash occurs, you may have one or more, maybe all of the symptoms below:

  • The sudden feeling of warmth, heat spreading through your body and face. For me, it starts at the feet and works it way up from the inside out like my blood is at a boiling point.
  • Flushed appearance with red and maybe blotchy skin.  My chest turns a crimson color. I’ve been asked, are you ok???, your chest is beet RED!
  • You may experience a rapid heartbeat. I do not have the rapid heartbeat but I know some women do experience it.
  • Sweating or perspiration, my face, arms, and chest drips with sweat.  I keep tissues in my pocketbook so I can turn away and wipe the wetness away without anyone realizing what I am doing.
  • After the hot flash/night sweat subsides, I get a chilled feeling leaving me looking for a way to take the chill off.  I keep a warm cozy blanket on my couch and an extra blanket on the bed.
 Hot flashes will vary in the frequency and intensity. How long symptoms last varies, mine can last anywhere from 3 minutes to 5 minutes. On average, the symptoms last for more than seven years. Some women have them for more than ten years. I am six years in and am looking forward to the day my face doesn’t start to glisten as I am speaking with a client.

So let’s talk about these symptoms below on our future get together, right here at

Do any of these sound familiar to you? So many women experience some if not all of these and have no one to talk to about them.  I know for me, I don’t really have anyone that is at this level of menopause. So I am looking forward to our chats.

  • Sleeplessness/Insomnia
  • Weight gain
  • Irritability
  • Mood Swings
  • Stress and Depression
  • Low Sex Drive, Loss of Libido
  • Uncomfortable Painful Sex
  • Fatigue and Low Energy
  • Brain Fog
  • Panic Attacks and Anxiety


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A Little Bit about me…..


Welcome to my weekly Blog.  My name is Mercedes, I am 52 years old, a wife, mother, and grandmother.  My hopes are that I can bring you sunshine, rainbows, and a bit of ­­­­­laughter.  I will share with you my journey through my everyday life. I was pulled into this VORTEX called Men*O*Pause not by choice but by health.  No one prepared me for this journey, I thought I would be in my late 50’s not 46.

I am a full time Realtor, starting my 17th year.  I took a break to go to work full time with a Mortgage company for a year and remembered why I became a realtor in the 1st place. I needed to find myself once again, for my health, wellness, and spiritual awareness.  So that is what this blog is going to be about, Health, Wellness, and Spiritual Awakening. Continue reading “ABOUT ME”